I know it is long but please read it and tell me what you think!
So my ex and I were together for almost a year. Because of my religion I will not have sex with a man before we are married. He started talking about what my dream engagement ring was, were I would like to get married, and other big hints that he was going to propose.
Then he asked me if when we got engaged could we have sex, because we both wanted a big wedding that would take at least six months to plan and save for and he didn’t think he could wait that much longer. I told him of course not I needed to be married first because that is what God wanted. He freaked out! He was like I should be more important to you then silly old traditions, and if we are engaged and you will still not sleep with me then that means you really don’t want to be with me. I told him that was far from the truth I did love him and I did want to marry him. But he was so convinced that me not having sex with him meant I didn’t care enough about him so we both agreed to end the relationship.
That was about a month and a half ago. Last week he asked me to go to dinner with him so we could talk about what happened. He took me to the nicest place we have within a half an hour of my small town and he asked if we could get back together. He said he was sorry and he was only excited to start our new life together and he took it a little to far. When I told him I would have to think about it he said “Then let me give you one more thing to think about” and he got down on one knee and pulled out my dream ring (a .75 ct. pear shaped diamond set on a plan white gold band) and asked me to marry him. I cried a little, but told him I needed some time to think.
Now I love him more than anyone else, and he is the first and only man (aside from family) that I have ever loved and I really want to be his wife. But he broke my heart! I was a mess without him, he hurt me worse than I hurt when my grandma died. Should I forgive him for that or should I move on?
Thanks in advance for your help, and please no mean or insulting comments!
part of me thinks he REALLY wants to get in your pants. what happens after you get married and have sex? you should talk to him about it because he shouldn’t make sex THAT big of a deal if he truly loves you.
First of all you are a very strong woman to wait til marriage to have sex. I wish I would have done that, But it sounds like to me that he only wants to have sex with you especially if he knows that you are going to wait til you are married to have sex, and then he starts talking to you about marriage and a ring and then boom OH when we get engaged can we have sex because I dont think I can wait much longer, no girl you are too good of a girl for that don’t fall for it I really think that he only wants sex from you and the ring was just to get you all caught up in the mess I bet if he could he would have sex with you and then just take off, and if he cant wait til you are married to have sex then he doesnt really care for you and love you becuase he would respect that about you, and him saying that he might not be able to wait til the wedding that tells me that he is willing to cheat on you if he hasnt all ready guys are pigs and most of them only care about that one thing SEX and if they cant wait til marriage like you are get rid of him girl you are to good for that kind of crap. GOOD LUCK TO YOU, and stay strong.